The love of the Father draws to right ways. As children stray, My hand moves to redirect, but also to reprove and chasten, for without such from a father, there is no fruit of their love. Pain is felt by both, but greatness from the child is drawn by the father’s sure hand. Grace abounds, but is limited by love, for misplaced grace drowns those who swim in its permissiveness. Love requires bounds of freedoms, that love would flow unbounded. The father who restrains not his children, allows habits of folly to bind instead. Discipline is of a loving hand – slow to anger, sufficient in grace, and teaching always what is right and good. An elder is called to such as well. Let he who is older spread wisdom, and guide also in love’s admonition. Let him be found encouraging the good, but also gently uprooting the vines that entangle the godly. Do not lay low; even he who has fault can teach, and in doing so, he shall also grow with he who he chastens.
Hebrews 12:11 (ESV) – For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.
Bottom Line: Leading in the world often follows similar principles as good parenting. Encouraging those who work with and for us, is one of the best things we can do for those placed in our influence. Knowing how to correct and change destructive behavior is vitally important as well, but not near as comfortable. If you are in a place of influence, and it is your job to grow the people around you, pay attention to both sides of your job. Just like the father who avoids bringing discipline will raise a dysfunctional child, so too the leader who avoids disciplining those he entrusted to him, will build a dysfunctional team. Find the balance by consulting the Holy Spirit about your situation, and then follow His leading to love fully those entrusted to you.